"I am a great believer in friendship. Friends are my world and my sustenance". This is what I used to say.
I still remember reading in a computer-generated astrology sheet about me at Fun World - "Friends will help you in everything. Don't expect any help from relatives." Oh how happy I was that day. My faith and belief in friendship had got official affirmation. The world was rosy. Unfortunately, I grew up after that.
My dad always tells me that my faith in friendship is unwarranted, over-the-top and that I am an immature fool who does not know anything better. I never listen of course. I don't want to. But I think he is right. There's no such thing as friendship and "best friends". We just fool ourselves everyday. We desperately try to cling on these notions to shield ourselves from the harsh realities of the world, the day to day struggle, the unfairness of it all, and to give meaning to our miserable lives. Hey wait! isn't that what friends are for? Yes, but this does not happen. How long are they going to listen to you going on and on about your life and how you don't have this and how you hate that. They mute you out after a certain point. Fair enough right? You change, they change. You have a different set of priorities than them and you think different. Everything becomes artificial and superficial. Friendship loses its meaning. You have to move on.
Maybe, it all comes down to managing expectations and more importantly, assumptions. You expect too much from them or the wrong things. You measure everything they do with the barometer of your own standards. They assume certain things about you and stuff everything you say down the hole of that assumption.
After the age of 24.42, everyone becomes selfish. Everyone views everything from the lenses of personal gain. Everyone is too busy for their own good. Friendship is flushed down the sparkling toilet bowl with the golden knob and shiny crap. And I think I have already done that. So should you.
Perhaps, that's why I want to open The Chocolate Shop. A dark one at that.
4 comments:
24.42 ? That is being optimistic. Maybe 8 or 9 is a more viable number. Of course friends are selfish! Yours and mine. As I am your friend, you are mine. What made you think otherwise? We come alone.. and we go alone. In between, when we get real pissed.. or real bored.. we call each other and meet up.. just to reassure ourselves that we are not the only ones who feel that way.
Man, I hate it when you get me into thee serious discussions!
take my word on this today's world - real true honest friendship is seldom these days, rather u hav an alternative : 'social networking'
so somebody is feeling oh so let down, that you are out to tackle friendship?! you get what you give.
you get only what you give.s
hey what you have written about friendship is so very true..your piece reflects exactly the way i feel about it... i really liked your earlier bloge shall we dance? also very much.. it was nice...
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